The 'Paradox'

As young as the age of thirteen I was subject to the adverb all women hear at least once in their lifetime, Too. 'Your too this', ' Your too that' As if at the youthful age of thirteen I was 'too' excessively into myself for any of my also, youthful peers to handle. But if being 'too much' of something was not a sufficient reason to be judged we are also 'not enough', 'Your too much of this but not enough of that'. Haven't we all heard something similar? How many times have you changed a part of yourself to fit in to this paradox?

Always and even to this present moment I will always be 'too girly' and 'not enough' of the opposite, for a little while it never bothered me I was happy (still am) with my pink pencil case and pink fluffy gloves god damn it my favourite colour is pink, never did it cross my mind that I was a label. A label that isn't allowed to swear, get drunk or do anything remotely related to a stereotypical 'girly girl'. I noticed this when I told people that I was going trekking in Ecuador 'No offence, but I didn't think you would be doing that ' or if I got drunk on a Friday night out. I was officially labelled. It was fine for me to be innocent and girly as long as I didn't go past that. If I decided to breach the label contract then I was immediately judged but if I never swore or drank alcohol then I would be frail and fragile. It's one big fat paradoxical trap.

So, balancing out the 'too much' with 'not enough' makes no difference, you will still be 'too much' or 'not enough' of something. I guess what I am trying to say is you are allowed to have matching pink stationary and sign yourself up for two weeks of no make-up and messy hair in a foreign country up a mountain (ahem, me), you are allowed to wear a short dress and say no to the boy hitting on you and you are allowed to like pink and be a feminist!

I am so sick and tired of hearing the same old stereotypical views blah blah blah. If your happy within yourself then go ahead, be too much of one thing and not enough of the other, isn't that what makes us who we are? How boring would the world be if we all conformed.
I sure as hell am not changing being 'too girly' and, I'll swear if I want to.

Love, Laura x


The Concept of Bigotry

As a young girl I was surrounded by comments that could only be assumed as a 'matter of opinion', 'You would look prettier with make-up' 'Aren't you lonely without a boyfriend?' 'I don't think you should wear that'. Growing up I accepted the negligence and it damaged my character until I reached an age where I began to speculate those who targeted me. However, many did not accept or fully understand my opinion and trying to change trained thoughts proved difficult. So, I read books, watched You Tube videos and I even based my AS English Language coursework on the effects of sexism which naturally, required a great deal of research and interviews.

As time passed my previous undeveloped attitude developed into well-informed and researched opinions, because of this more people listened and I was not afraid to call myself a feminist, after all it is a belief in equality and why should we be ashamed of gender coordination. Yet in a modern civilisation where a pay gap exists and women are taught how not to get raped, people feel the need to say 'i'm not a feminist' so they don't have society's connotations of a 'man hater' attached to them, despite what they really think. How misconstructed is our society when females have to justify themselves to be understood.
This angered me and I wondered, how many girls experience acts of sexism everyday but are alien to the concept of bigotry, how many people are afraid to call themselves feminists and how many have no clue what acts of sexism entail or what feminism is. With all of those questions, personal thoughts and experiences I have decided to write my own column, expressing all of the above in more detail. I'm aiming for a little acknowledgment and to empower young girls.
If you have any experiences or thoughts please comment below, I am eager to here what you have to say! Or if you would like me to include anything in my blog post, please email me. My first piece will be up soon.
I hope you enjoyed reading my little rant and will join me on Sunday for my first mini column.
Love, Laura x


About Laura

Hi, my name is Laura Anne and I am 18 years old currently living in my home town Newcastle. I am in my last year of college (eek!) studying English Language, English Literature and Textiles, hoping to study Fashion Journalism in London.

My blog 'Honey Laura' is a way of presenting my passion for writing as well as general thoughts, ideas, style, travel, bakes and anything that interests me. I will try to update my blog regularly, I'm aiming for three days a week and maybe more!

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